Transformative emotional experiences for relationships that honor and meet clients where they are.
I. To hold hope and co-create safe, respectful spaces where clients can heal, grow, and bond by experiencing emotions together in new ways.
II. To strive to reduce and eliminate barriers limiting and preventing affordable access to cutting-edge, person-first care for all relationships.
What I believe
Bonding Science, informed by Attachment Theory and disciplines like Interpersonal Neurobiology, has lead me to believe humans are wired to explore, grow, and heal through loving connection and emotionally attuned co-regulation. Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy, points out that we are "bonding mammals;" we evolved a profound need for a safe haven and secure base with trusted others. Learn more.
I view my role as supporting clients to tap into this innate human capacity for balance, healing, and transformation, and to understand and address any barriers or blocks that might be getting in the way of or limiting their natural abilities to trust, nurture each other, and connect intimately.
Relationship is a constant, ongoing process of connection, disconnection, and reconnection, according to Dr. Jean Baker Miller, founder of Relational-Cultural Therapy. Counseling frequently fails when practitioners try to just teach communication skills training and attempt to problem-solve unsolvable problems without supporting clients to stay close during this inevitable relational cycle.
I see conflict as natural and health-promoting if no one is being harmed, so we don't waste time trying to prevent disconnection in counseling work; instead, we prioritize strengthening partners' abilities to make emotional repairs and reconnect.
I don't believe couples should stay in therapy forever; if I've done my job the way I intend, clients tune into their innate abilities to bond and nurture each other, achieve their goals, and then ultimately find me no longer necessary.