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We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.
— Marcel Proust

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counseling mission

I. To hold hope and co-create safe, respectful spaces where clients can heal, grow, and bond by experiencing emotions together in new ways.

II. To strive to reduce and eliminate barriers limiting and preventing affordable access to cutting-edge, person-first care for all relationships.


Counseling process

I'm a counseling intern at Luminary Counseling, PLLC under the supervision of Jennifer Williams Buffalo, LPC-S, LMFT. To learn more: LUMINARY COUNSELING. 

Every relationship deserves an approach that's uniquely tailored to partners' needs and goals. While Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is not appropriate for every couple, it's an evidence-based approach I love, trust, and use with many relationships who work with me. You can learn more about EFT under RESOURCES

If you’re familiar with Gottman Method and hoping to experience Gottman Assessment, that’s also a service you can request.

I offer complimentary 30-minute face-to-face consultations to new clients if you would like to address any questions or concerns prior to a first appointment. Most new couples like to go ahead and schedule a first session that’s 1.5 hours so we can use the first 30 minutes to co-decide if we might be a good fit for counseling work. If it feels like a match, we sign paperwork and begin the first hour of the intake and assessment.

After the initial appointment, counseling sessions for partners as well as individuals are generally between 1 and 2 hours. Typically, once a distressed relationship has de-escalated their conflict, weekly session goals can be achieved in 1 hour. In relationships with low conflict, or just hoping for a premarital check-in, goals can be achieved in weekly hour-long sessions, and for some, 1 hour every 2 weeks.

During the assessment process, we'll collaboratively co-determine some healthy relational goals. You'll recognize that our counseling work together is complete when your goals have been achieved. 

If you're an individual hoping to try some dating coaching for the first time, my flat hourly rate can be applied to: relationship consultation, online dating profile co-evaluation and editing, healthy dating, conversation skills practice, date planning, and relational trouble-shooting.  

 
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Relationship support that's customized for people seeking loving connection, reparative reconnection, or peaceful disconnection.  


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CONNECTION

-"We're already really pretty happy; we'd like to find some new ways to deepen our bond and grow together."
-"We're thinking about moving in together/getting married and want to make sure we're creating a solid foundation together."
-"We're not 100% about monogamy and want talk about opening our relationship."


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RECONNECTION

-"I cheated on my partner and I want to do whatever it takes to keep our family together and repair trust between us."
-"We broke up and got back together and it's been really tough."
-"I just don't know if I can ever trust my partner again after their affair(s). I don't know what this means for our relationship."
-"We love each other, we just long for the playfulness and intimacy we experienced at the start of our relationship."
-"We feel lost from each other and I'm not sure if I even know how to reach out anymore."


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DISCONNECTION

-"We're talking about a trial separation."
-"We would prefer to never see each other again, but we have kids together. We want the best for our children, so we need to figure out this co-parenting thing."
-"My partner dropped the D-word, but I'm not sure if I think we could pull through or not. We need help deciding what to do."
-"I need help creating healthier boundaries. I can't decide if I want to cut someone important out of my life or not."


Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
— Carl Jung